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I Know Me

The seven stories in I Know Me lead you on a journey, from conflict and stress-filled metaphors that keep you emotionally reactive; through grounding, connection, and safe space metaphors (roots out your boots; one with the sun; bright light bubble); on to self-reflection metaphors; and ending with metaphors teaching you how to trust your intuition.

For all ages. Learn more and purchase I Know Me here.

The Anchor That Pulled Us Under

What does it mean to be reasonable? Are you certain your choices and actions are not based on hidden emotions or biases? How can you get it right (even if “right” means something different to someone else)?

Set in the court of public opinion (CPO), and using the shocking Supreme Court of Canada’s decision in Ward v Quebec as a backdrop, The Anchor That Pulled Us Under (tentative title) explores the mental shortcuts and embodied emotions that all-too-often lead us to biased decisions.

Listen to 'I Know Me' story excerpts!

LDT™: Where it came from and how it works

LDT™ helps you to quickly:

  • Locate the stress or conflict in your body
  • Describe the feeling with metaphor and imagery
  • Transform your metaphor into something more positive
Karen laughing at she sits in front of a bookshelf at a microphone. LDT™

Transform Worry, Stress and Conflict With 3 Simple Steps

Stress and conflict play havoc in your body. Clear thinking becomes muddled; facts get washed away in a sea of emotions. Locate, Describe & Transform™ ...
Conflict and emotions: Caricature of an extremely large boss with a wide open mouth yelling at a much smaller employee as he holds him off the ground near his desk. LDT™

Conflict and Emotions: How One Leads To Another

Conflict led to emotions. You didn't heal, so those emotions made their way into new conflicts. Here's a quick peek at the conflict and emotions ...
sign post with the word 'fear' on it against a red sunset Locate

Negative Coping Strategies For Stress: There’s A Better Way

Emotions are reactions in your body. Instead of falling back on negative coping strategies for stress, learn to Locate, Describe, & Transform your emotions.
bare foot about to step on large pieces of jagged glass Describe

Do You Know Your Metaphors For Stress And Conflict?

Your metaphors for stress and conflict tell you - and everyone else - all you need to know about your emotions. With LDT™, you can ...
bare foot walking calmly on sand Transform

Your Imagination is the Doorway To Transform Your Emotions

You don't want to feel hurt, angry, sad, afraid, or more. But you don't know how to transform your emotions. Let your imagination, and LDT™, ...

Intensity and Complexity of Emotions

Are you a little stressed, or a lot? Is your situation or decision fairly simple, or extremely complex?

Whatever your answer, your scenes or metaphors are likely to match your emotional intensity and situational complexity.

Intensity = Proximity

More intense emotions may feel more wrapped up in your body. While discomfort can be felt to broadly hover around you, dislike starts to make its presence known. While disdain oozes out of you toward others, hate is fully embedded in your being.

home-intensity-circle

The above illustration of a body and four concentric circles uses colour to support the metaphors:

  • Yellow is the largest circle around your body. It is low intensity emotions that you are keeping at bay.
  • Yellow-Orange is for medium intensity emotions. Closer to your body, you are feeling the pressure.
  • Orange-Red is your high intensity emotions. The circle is tight; the impact is direct. The stress or conflict is pressing against you.
  • Red marks your extreme intensity emotions with a circle embedded in your core body. You have become wrapped up in your emotions or situation.

Fire Metaphor

A firefighter walks into high flames.

Using a fire metaphor, you may describe your emotions as follows:

  • low intensity emotions, you may be seeing smoke signals
  • medium intensity emotions, you are feeling the heat
  • high intensity emotions, you are putting out fires
  • extreme intensity emotions, you are going down in flames

Complexity = Density

More complicated situations may present as more dense and complex metaphors. The cobwebs below are one example.

Cobweb Metaphor

Roadblock Metaphor

The roadblock metaphor offers another example of different complexities.

The Grid

Can you place your emotions on the 16-part intensity-complexity grid? Your metaphors and scenes may help.

16-part intensity-complexity of emotions grid.